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Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Polygyny & STD's



Polygyny & STD's
1. Question: If a wife who was a bikr (virgin) when she married her husband felt that his choice in a second wife was putting her health in harms way because the sister has had many previous spouses in a very short period of time. Could she withhold relations from her husband, without falling into sin? Can she request a khula’ (nullification of the marriage) from him as she has anxiety that the sister may have illnesses due to her marrying many times.
Answer: The Shaykh حفظه الله answered in summary by saying that the question that has been asked by the questioner has two parts.

On one hand, if the woman fears that the second wife may or may not have a disease then she has the right to ask her husband to have that woman examined at a credible hospital, clinic or facility of that nature. After the examination, if it has been found that the woman has been afflicted by a disease, a venereal disease in this situation, then she has the right to do one of two things – either to remain in the marriage or to seek a khula’ or nullification of the marriage. That is because there is now clear-cut evidence indicating that she has been afflicted with this disease, affirming that which she (the first wife) has suspected. However, if the doctor has examined the woman and has determined that the woman has not been afflicted with any venereal diseases then she has no right, rather it is not permissible for her to seek a nullification of the marriage. That is because she is basing her suspicion on doubt and not on that which is certain.

On the other hand, the sister is encouraged to make du’aa from that which has been mentioned within the Qur’aan and the Sunnah, from amongst them:

حَسْبِيَ اللّهُ لا إِلَـهَ إِلاَّ هُوَ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ وَهُوَ رَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ
{…Allâh is sufficient for me. Lâ ilâha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He) in Him I put my trust
and He is the Lord of the Mighty Throne.}
[at-Taubah 9:129]

Also, there are du’aa from the ahaadeeth of the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم asking Allaah سبحانه و تعالى for al-aafiyah – safety and security in the duniyah and aakhira.
اللَّهُمَّ إني أسألُكَ العافِيَةَ فِي الدُّنْيَا والآخِرَةِ...
‘O Allaah, I ask You for well-being in this life and the next…’[1] If she makes these du’aa and repeats them, then inshaa Allaah she will attain that which she is seeking from Allaah سبحانه و تعالى and Allaah knows best.
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Monday, July 20, 2009

Divorce, a Wide Spread Habit in America

Divorce, a Wide Spread Habit in America

Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadee al-Waadi'ee

Reference: Tuhfatul Mujeeb ‘alaa Asilat al Haadir wal Ghareeb p.131

 

Category: General

(from America): There is a bad habit that has spread amongst the brothers who are upon the Sunnah, and it is that some of them get married, and after a few days an argument breaks out between the married couple, and the news of this argument spreads and other brothers encourage the husband to divorce his wife. And this has reached the point where there is a sister that has been divorced fourteen times. And this is something that is wide spread, and there is no one from amongst the people of knowledge to return to in this matter, so what do you advise us with?

What I advice the brothers with is what the messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه و سلم said:

“A believing man does not hate a believing woman, if there is a certain characteristic that he dislikes about her, then there is another characteristic that he is pleased with.�

And what was narrated in Saheeh Al Bukharee and Muslim on the authority of Abu Hurayrah that the messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه و سلم said:

“Be good/kind to women, for indeed they were created from a curved rib, and the most curved part of a rib is the upper most part of it, and if try to straighten it, you will break it, and if you leave it, it will stay curved. So be good/kind to women.�

And the messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه و سلم also said:

“Indeed the woman was created from a rib, and she will not be straightened out for you, so if you enjoy [your relationship with] her, then you will be doing so while she has ‘iwaj (crookedness) , and if you try to straighten her out, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.�

And the messenger of Allaah says:

“I have never seen anyone with a deficiency of ‘aql (intellect -meaning the witness of two women is equal to the witness of one man."

An Nawawee said: "meaning they have weak memories) and deen (religion â€"meaning they do not pray or fast during their menses) that are more overpowering to men than one of you [women].â€�

So the deficiency of ‘aql and deen is something that is always present with a lot of women.

Allaah ‘az wa jal says in his noble book:

{And live with them with ma’roof (kindness/niceness} And He says {Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend from their means [to support them]. Therefore the Saalihaat (righteous women) Qaanitaat (devoutly obedient women [to Allaah and to their husbands]), and those who guard in their husband’s absence that which Allaah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husbands property…) And as for those women on whose part you see ill conduct, admonish them [first], [next] refuse to share their beds and [last] hit them [lightly if it is useful] but if they return to obedience, do not seek any means [of annoyance] against them surely Allaah is ever most high, most great.}

So if it [divorce] is because of bad manners then he should be patient. However if she is not chaste then he should separate himself from her. Allaah subhaanahu wa ta’aala says {The Zanee (adulterer/fornicat or) doesn’t marry except a zaaneeyah (adultress/fornicat ress) or a mushrikah, and the zaneeyah doesn’t marry except a zanee And that is forbidden to the believers.}

And [one should keep in mind] that she is in a land of luxury, a land of sins and evil deeds, and she will not find anyone to help her in matters of her deen, not to mention matters of khayr (good). So if Allaah guides this woman through you, then this is better for you than the best of camels.

Translator: Nadir Ahmad, Abu Abdul-Waahid



On the authority of Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah, sal Allahu alayhi wa salla, said: "Seek out that which benefits you, seek help only from Allah and never say you can't do it. "If any adversity comes to you, do not say: 'If I had only acted in such-and-such a way, it would have been such-and-such; ' but instead, say: 'Allah has decreed (it) and what He willed, He has done,' for verily, (the word) (if)opens the way for the work of Satan." - Saheeh Muslim


Saturday, July 18, 2009

Warning Website Frauds

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Baraka allahu Feeki



Thursday, July 16, 2009

Slips of the Tongue backbiting, Tale-careing(Khutbah)

By Muhammad Saalih Al `Uthaimeen
Translated By Hazem Ragab

First Sermon



Praise be to Allah, Whose Knowledge encompassed all things. He is Witness over all things. His Knowledge reaches what is disclosed and what is hidden, what is nigh and what is far away. I bear witness that there is none worthy to be worshiped except Allah, with Whom there is no associate. To Him belongs the Kingdom and to Him all praise is due; He is the best Protector and the Worthy of all praise. I testify that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger, the best of all servants of Allah. May Allah bless him, his family, his Companions and those who will follow them on proper way until the Resurrection Day!



O people! Fear Allah, the Exalted, and preserve your tongues, since the results of tongue indulgence leads to one's ruin. It was reported on the authority of Mu'adh bin Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: "I asked the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam): Messenger of Allah, tell me of something which should cause me to be admitted to Paradise and will keep me away from the Fire. He answered: "You have asked about a matter of great importance but it is easy for one for whom Allah makes it easy. Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him. Observe Prayer, pay the Zakaah, observe the Fast of Ramadan and perform the Pilgrimage if you can afford the journey. Then he added: "Shall I inform you of the gates of goodness? The fast is a shield. Charity puts out sins as water puts out fire and also the Prayer in the middle of the night. Then he recited "Their limbs do forsake their beds of sleep, the while they call on their Lord, in Fear and Hope: and they spend (in charity) out of the sustenance which We have bestowed on them. Now no person knows what delights of the eye are kept hidden (in reserve) for them, as a reward for their (good) Deeds" (As-Sajdah: 16-17). Then he added: "Shall I tell you of the root of the matter and of its contours and of its top?" I said: "Certainly, Messenger of Allah." He said: "The root of the matter is Islam, its contours are Prayers and its top is fighting in the cause of Allah (Jihad)." Then he asked: "Shall I tell you of that with which you can control of all this?" I said: "Certainly, O Messenger of Allah." Then he took hold of his tongue and said: "Keep this in control." I said: "Shall we be called to account in respect of that which we say?" He answered: "May your mother lose you, will people not be thrown face down into Hell only on account of the harvest of their tongue."



O people! The harvest of tongue is the unlawful sayings, which are many, and among which there are sayings tantamount to disbelief. Mockery of Allah, His religion, His Book, His messengers, His signs, and His righteous servants as regards their modes of worship, all lead to disbelief in Allah and the exclusion out of the fold of faith. This mockery is one of the fruits of the tongue. Falsehood, backbiting, tale bearing, obscenity, reviling and cursing, are all forms of the fruits of the tongue. In a Hadith it was stated that Allah treats with displeasure a person who is given to loose and vulgar talk.



O people! Many people picked up bad moralities that are related to the fruits of their tongues. Most people pay no attention to falsehood, as they do not derive a warning from the Prophet's saying: "Falsehood leads to Al-Fujur (i.e. wickedness, evil-doing), and Al-Fujur (wickedness) leads to the (Hell) Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is written before Allah, a liar." Certain persons may sometimes have unreliable guesswork, which they divulge among people carelessly, though their guess may defame other Muslims, thus incurring the sin of falsehood and transgression committed against their fellow Muslims. It is feared that such people will be included in the category concerning which the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: "A man may utter a word, in which he finds no faults, though it may cause him to fall down into the Hell for seventy years." In Sahih Al-Bukhari, it was narrated on the authority of Samurah bin Jundub, in a part of the dream seen by the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam): "Two angels came to him and, while they accompanied him, they passed by a person lying and another standing with an iron hook in his hand pushing it inside the mouth of the former till it reached the jawbone, and then tore off one side of his cheek, and then did the same with the other side; in the meantime the first side of his cheek became normal again and then he repeated the same operation again." The two angels told the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam): "He was a liar and who used to tell lies, and the people would report those lies on his authority till they spread all over the world. So, he will be punished like that till the Day of Resurrection."



Such are those who convey their baseless conjectures to people as if they were realities. Perhaps such conjectures may sow hatred among people and lead to the disintegration of society and dispersion of the team spirit, for nothing but illusions. Some people may propagate rumors that they hear from others, which if investigated, will turn out to be mere lies or versions of original reports distorted by exaggerations. However, a prudent believer should ascertain news and their sources before conveying them to others, in order to avoid committing falsehood. In a Sahih Hadith the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: "A man may utter a word without his being on a clear ground regarding it (i.e., without considering its being truthful or not or its being good or evil) which causes him to slip down into the Fire (in a depth) greater than the distance between east and west." In another Hadith it was related that the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: "A person will be considered as committing a great sin if he relates all that he hears."



O Muslims! Restrain you tongues! Do not let them loose, bringing about your destruction. When you are about to utter a word, just remember Allah's saying that which translates as: "Not a word does he utter but there is a sentinel by him, ready (to note it)" (Qaf: 18), and the Prophet's saying: "Let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day say something good, or better keep silent."



O People! Verily, you will be called to account for every word that you utter. So, be prepared for that critical time when you will confronted with the words that you uttered without carelessly!



O Muslim! Do not hasten to utter all that comes to your imagination or all that you heard, for your imagination or the report you heard may be far from truth, in which case you will lose greatly.



Allah the Almighty says which translates as: "O ye who believe! Fear Allah, and (always) say a word directed to the Right: That He may make your conduct whole and sound and forgive you your sins: he that obeys Allah and His Messenger, has already attained the highest Achievement. We did indeed offer the Trust to the Heavens and the Earth and the Mountains; but they refused to undertake it, being afraid thereof: but man undertook it; - he was indeed unjust and foolish; With the result) that Allah has to punish the Hypocrites, men and women, and the Unbelievers, men and women, and Allah turns in Mercy to the Believers, men and women; for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." (Al-Ahzab: 70- 73).



May Allah make the Holy Qur'an a blessing for you and I and protect us from slipping in erroneous words or deeds, for He is Most Bounteous, Most Generous!



Second Sermon:



Praise be to Allah, who united the believers in a bond of brotherhood, exhorting them on cooperation, goodness, righteousness and mutual respect as regards one's property and honor. As it was put by the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam), property, honor, and life are all to be held sacred among Muslims. I testify that none worthy to be worshiped but Allah Alone, with Whom there is no associate. He is the Lord of heaven and earth. I testify that Muhammad is Allah's servant and Chosen Messenger. May Allah bless him, his family, his Companions and those who will follow them, as long as world exists.



O people! Muslims now suffer two rampant diseases, though immunity from them is easy for those who are protected by Allah. These two diseases are backbiting and tale-bearing. Backbiting (Ghibah) denotes maligning a person, speaking evil about any of his characteristics or his deeds. Many of the counsels of Muslims today are not free from indulgence in backbiting people and criticizing them, despite the fact that those backbiters themselves are not free from faults and blemishes; rather they harm themselves and those who listen to their reports without denouncing them.



O Muslims! Allah presented one who backbites his fellow Muslims in the most repulsive picture, in which he is depicted as eating the flesh of the dead body of one who is backbitten.



O Muslims! Your duty when you hear others backbite your brothers is to be earnest to forbid the backbiter and to defend the honors of Muslims, just as the case when you find a man eating from the flesh of a dead body. Allah the Almighty said what means: "O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a sin: and spy not on each other, nor speak ill of each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor it. But fear Allah: for Allah is Oft Returning, Most Merciful" (Al-Hujurat: 12).



It is likely that a backbiter will be punished on the Day of Resurrection by ordering him to eat from the flesh of the dead bodies of those whom he backbit in the world, who will be presented as dead in front of him. It was narrated in the Hadith relating the story of Mi'raj (Ascent) that: "The Prophet (peace be upon him) passed by people with copper fingernails, with which they scratch their own faces and chests. He asked: "Who are those, Gabriel?" It was answered: "Those are the people who eat the flesh of other people and vilify their honor." The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said in an occasion: "O you who declared faith with your tongues, but your hearts are not imbued with faith! Do not backbite Muslims, and do not search for their faults, for if anyone searches for their faults, Allah will search for his fault, and if Allah searches for the fault of anyone, He disgraces and exposes him in his house".



O Muslims! Sometimes when backbiters are advised to give up such bad habit, they plead innocence by stating that they are telling the truth. The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) was asked concerning backbiting thus: "Suppose that there are actual faults in the one I am talking about?" The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) replied: "If what you tell about your brother (in faith) is truth, then you will still be guilty of backbiting, but if what you say concerning him is untruth, you will be guilty of committing falsehood against him". Thus, the Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) explained to his Ummah that backbiting denotes mentioning the real faults of a person. However, the worse evil is to backbite a believer by mentioning faults, which are not in him. Imam Ahmad, as well as the scholars who adopted his school, maintained that backbiting is one of the major sins. This gives a warning to Muslims to stop backbiting others and to be concerned with their own faults. Once a person finds a fault with his brother, he should advice him and guide him to eliminate such fault rather than vilifying him. This is the requisite for establishing a real bond of brotherhood based on faith, and the torch that guides to the way of Islamic methodology.



The other rampant disease is Namimah (tale-bearing, or going about with calumnies), which denotes carrying the statements made against some people and transmitting such statements to those backbitten people, with the aim of spreading corruption and sowing enmity and hatred among people. This kind of Namimah is considered the most grievous of all, and one who is guilty of it is to incur torture in the grave, as well as the torment of the Fire of Hell. The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: "No talebearer shall ever enter Paradise." The Prophet (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) once passed by two graves and said: "They (The dwellers of these graves) are now being tortured, because of something which was not difficult to resist: One of them neglected cleansing his genitals following urination and the others was given to tale-bearing."



O Muslims! Anyone, to whom a report is carried, telling that someone is vilifying him, should condemn such an act and forbid the tale-carrier from persisting in his sin. He should also take care of such a talebearer for, just as he carries tales of people to him, he most likely carries tales from him to other people. Allah the Almighty says which translates as: "Heed not the type of despicable man, ready with oaths, a slanderer, going about with calumnies," (Al-Qalam: 10 -11).



May Allah guide you and I to the best of manners and deeds and keep us away from the bad manners and deeds and guide us to His straightforward path, for He is Most Bounteous, Most Generous. May Allah bless our Prophet Muhammad (Salla Allahu Alaihi Wa Sallam), his family and his Companions.

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Why husbands have High Status thats he Does?

Why husband have High Status that He does?

Taken from the Book: The Structure of the Muslim Family by the shaykh al'Allaamah Muhammad Amaan ibn Ali al-Jaami died: 1416H
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[004:034] Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means.

This verse, as you can see, clearly gives the responsibility of leading and governing the family to the man. Additionally, the verse never failed to clarify the reason for this; rather, it explained why.

Allah said, "because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means."1

1[TN}: Al-Qurtubi said in his tafseer [5/161] "Some of the people of knowledge have understood from the saying of Allah, the Most High, "because they spend (to support them) from their means." That whenever the husband is incapable of supporting his wife then he is not considered to be maintaining her. If he is not maintaining her, then she can seek that the marriage contract be annulled because one of the intents behind the legislation of marriage has been lost."

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2. That both of them performed and fulfil the rights and obligations that Allah has made compulsory upon them as it pertains to the other partner. The wife should not demand to receive exactly the same rights that belong to the husband, and the husband should not use the authority or leadership that Allah has graced him with as an opportunity to oppress her and beat her unjustly.

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3. It is essential that the woman obey her husband as much as she can when he commands her. As this is a station that Allah has granted to the men as mentioned in the two previous verses: "Man are the protectors and maintainer of women" [An-Nisaa: 34] and "But men have a degree of responsibility over them" [Al-Baqarah: 228]

Taken from the Book: The Structure of the Muslim Family by the shaykh al'Allaamah Muhammad Amaan ibn Ali al-Jaami died: 1416H


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Women working without being in need of it.




What your Thoughts?



QuestionDoes a woman follow her whims and desires if she's working without being in need of the money ?

Answer:
No, she is not. She doesn't follow her whims and desires if it is a noble and respected work with no free mixing. Is she only works amongst women without any unjustice taking place and hostility, all while her husband is allowing her to work if she is married, then she is not following her whims and desrires.

There is different kinds of work. If it maintains disobediance to Allah, then it is obligatory on her to leave it. If the job leads to free mixing between men and women and showing her beauty, then this is also haram.

But if it is allowed and Sharýah-based, as being a teacher for girls, or a nurse, doctor for women. Then it is a permissble act. Alhamdulillah.

Question If she isn't in need of the money, is it still permissble ?

AnswerYes it is. She might for example, want more money, or need it to give away in charity etc.

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A benefit regarding what do you say to a child when he sneezes





As salaamu alaikum.

A benefit regarding what do you say to a child when he sneezes


Shaykh Saaleh al Fawzaan may Allah preserve him and extend his
lifespan said" As for the child when he sneezes then is not to be said
to him yarhamukallh ( may Allah have mercy upon you) but however the
du'aa of blessing is to be said to him , so it is said to him
baraakallahu feeka (may Allah bless you) because a child sneezed in
the presence of the Prophet may peace and blessing be upon him so he
said(to him) " baraakallahu feeka and commanded him to praise Allah
when he sneezes in order that he educates him ( this beautiful
etiquette).

The hadeeth has been reported by the Haafith as -Silfee in his
selection of hadeeths as it is found in the book" al kishaaf "by
Mansuur al Bahuutee volume 2 page158

This statement of Shaykh Saaleh al Fawzaan is found in his book
"ithaaf at Tullaab" page 280

Also this is not only the opinion of Shaykh Saaleh al Fawzaan but
rather many scholars from the past such as al mardaawee al hanbalee
and others.

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